From the "True Champions of Justice" series

The writing at the top reads as follows “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible” – Dalai Lama

When you think of how pervasive this feeling is in our culture, it’s quite shocking. We don’t feel good enough. We feel like we don’t measure up to an ideal that we have set for ourselves. We beat ourselves up. But when it comes to putting others on a pedestal, it can be easy for us. We can love so easily. We can love so fiercely.

I remember so clearly to back to one of the first talks I had attended at the Halifax Shambhala Centre and being told that I was a good person who needed to start to cultivate love for myself. Zoinks! At first my usual sense of resistance took hold and I laughed off such hippy-dippy nonsense. Ooooh. Love yourself. Sure. Give myself a big old hug right there.

Then I started to mull it over and I felt awash with such an intense feeling of sadness. Sadness for myself. Why had I consistently been so hard on myself? Why didn’t I feel the love that I could devote to another with such ferocity right back at myself? Why didn’t I defend myself in situations where if the same things were happening to another, I would jump to protect them? Jeez. I had some work to do.

It’s remarkable that we can display such compassion and caring for others, but it’s important that this isn’t “idiot compassion”** or a compassion that lacks any degree of self-love or respect. Either of these flavours of compassion are sadly misguided and can result in harm both for the self as well as the recipient.

**For a complete and well-composed definition and description of idiot compassion, please read this blog post by Nella Lou over at the Smiling Buddha Cabaret blog.

Tonglen is the one of the best methods of developing a balanced sense of love for oneself as well as loosening up that sense of duality that takes hold and makes us feel so separate from one another. As someone who suffered with depression throughout my tumultuous teens and twenties, I found that spending some time focusing on generating compassion for myself was particularly useful in pulling me out of my funk. The negative self talk and chatter that takes hold for those prone to the mean reds can be also broke by extending compassion to others but I found that sending love to oneself in a balanced and non-ego tripping kind of way can do wonders to awaken a sense in us that we are worthy when we lack this sense of dignity.

Go on. Give yourself a big hug. Right now.

Rod recently posted a mention to the heavy website – MetalUnderground.com and their news item about the  Dalai Lama bestowing blessings on the Taiwanese black metal band Chthonic for their pro-Tibet ways.

Here’s some pics showing both sides of Chthonic (cleaned up for His Holiness and made up for their fans).

-His Holiness the Dalai Lama

I was going through their RSS feed recently and noticed they linked to this video about one man’s quest to have the Dalai Lama carry the Olympic torch.

Now I would love for Steve Varon, the man who has this aspiration to make things a bit more social in creating some social media hype around this (ie: a facebook group/ blog / website). If anything like this exists for him and his cause and I’m just not having any luck finding it, please drop me a line.

Steve, if you read this. Great idea and I hope you can make it happen! I’m willing to help you anyway I can. In fact “BuddhaBloggers”- let’s show this cause some love. Blog all about it!